I know a guy, and we've had such a complicated situation I can't make heads or tails of it. And one thing I keep coming back to is the fact he grew up in Lima, he told me he has male family members he refuses to visit because they insist he's gay, constantly badger him about it, even though he's not. It appears he grew up middle or lower middle class, has Quechua ancestry, and comes from a family of creative people. He definitely does have gay mannerisms (like the limp wrist movement). He told me he gets people think he is, but he doesn't care because he's not. I'd usually find this suspicious, were it not for the fact I've known plenty of (American) men his age and older with far more gay mannerisms who are completely straight! Also, he is in a profession that is mostly women and gay men, so I imagine he may have picked it up unconsciously. But if his relatives back in Lima were saying this, it likely predated him coming to the US. He definitely had a girlfriend for many years who he truly loved deeply. I had a strange involvement with him. I'm a cis woman. A long story short, it appears he felt very deeply about me and is heartbroken because I didn't just want to be his friend. He of course he never verbalized his sadness/regret even though I told him I had feelings for him. Regardless of orientation, he is deeply emotionally repressed, but I can't tell if it was only deep platonic feelings or for some reason he kept his romantic feelings for me hidden, even though he'd told me at one point he was attracted to me and maybe something could develop between us. Anyone who can help shed some light on the cultural factors at play here would be appreciated. I have spoken to my few Peruvian friends of the same age, who definitely say this isn't typical.