Hello! I’m not sure if this is the right sub, but I honestly don’t know who else to ask. I’m Filipina (20s/F) and this is my first time dating a Peruvian (40s). We’ve been together for 3 years. I’ve heard that Peruvians and Filipinos can have some things in common, like being very family-oriented, warm, and sweet, so I guess that’s why I’m confused and asking: why does mine seem to hate me? 😭 He was okay in the beginning and was much sweeter and more patient with me, but over time he changed. Lately, I’ve noticed that he’s been mean to me, and I recently asked him why. He snaps at me over small miscommunications and gives me this disappointed/annoyed look when I don’t immediately understand what he means. When he’s looking for something and can’t find it, he gets visibly frustrated and sometimes bangs or scrambles things around loudly. For example, if he’s looking for utensils, he’ll rummage through them aggressively. Another example: he’ll ask where the towel is, and I’ll tell him, “It’s there at the bottom,” but if he still doesn’t see it, he gets frustrated and raises his voice saying things like, “I DON’T SEE IT!” Then he expects me to get up and find it for him. What hurts me the most is how he reacts when I’m upset. If I’m crying, he’ll sigh and look annoyed, or sometimes pretend he doesn’t notice that I’m crying at all. He doesn’t seem concerned or comforting. He also rarely says “I love you” first anymore and isn’t very sweet or affectionate with me. I feel like I’m always the one initiating that side of our relationship. Another thing I’ve noticed is the difference between how he treats my family versus how I treat his. I’ve met his family online and have always tried to be warm and respectful toward them. I would do the same if they were around me. But when my family is here, he doesn’t seem as giving or proactive. I find myself wishing he would make more of an effort without me having to ask. I don’t know if he’s stressed, tired, annoyed with me, resentful about something, or if his feelings have changed. I’ve asked him directly why he’s been treating me differently, but I still don’t really understand what’s going on. I’m honestly just tired. I feel like I’m constantly trying to understand him while also wondering why I don’t feel cared for anymore. Is this potentially a cultural difference, or is this just a relationship issue? For Peruvians or people in intercultural relationships, does any of this sound familiar? Or am I just being too sensitive?